Can you predict the success of a relationship by watching a couple talking with each other?
From Blink, the Power of Thinking Without Thinking by Malcolm GladwellJohn Gottman is the lead of the “love lab” of University of Washington. On predicting whether a couple will stay married 15 years later, he has
95% accuracy by watching the couple talking for 60 mins.
90% accuracy by watching the couple talking for 15 mins.Signs he focuses on are:
Among which contempt is the most critical of all. “You would think that criticism would be the worst, … But if I speak from a superior plane (contempt), that’s far more damaging.”
[Zeebees] So, respect for each other is the sign you can use to predict the success of a relationship. What do you think is the most underlying factor of a successful of a relationship. I would say trust. What do you think?
A girlfriend application form. Probably a lot of information you want to find out but never dared to ask. My friend P sent me this a while back. Short and entertaining. Ads may not be safe for work.
By the way, the movie “Every Thing You Always Wanted to Know About Sex, but Were Afraid to Ask” by Woody Allen is an audacious and ludicrous movie that should be on your movie list. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0068555/
Recent research found a statistically significant correlation between higher IQ and sexual exclusivity in men. There is no similar correlation in women. Also found is a correlation between higher IQ and liberalism and atheism. [Evolutionary psychologist Satoshi Kanazawa at the London School of Economics and Political Science.]
I am incredulous of this result since it does not make sense evolutionarily. The explanation for this result is a bit far stretched. Nonetheless, it is a positive result that if used properly, pushes morality towards the right direction. :)
Size of body parts corresponds to number of neurons in the brain. Illustrated by Joan M.K. Tycko.
You may think your brain dedicates a significant portion of itself to your sex organ. Surprise!
A tongue in cheek excerpt from ” The Accidental Mind” by David J. Linden
Most people who look at the sensory homunculus [pic on the left] long enough will eventually stammer out something like, “Given how sensitive the genitals are, shouldn’t they be larger?” … One potential explanation for the size issue hinges on the need to be more precise when we say “sensitive to touch.” The parts of the homunculus that have huge representations (such as hands, lips, and tongue) are not merely able to detect faint sensations but can also discriminate the location of these sensations very precisely. … The genitals, while they can easily detect faint sensations, cannot accomplish tactile form perception. In the spirit of old-fashioned natural philosophy, you can experiment with this at home. In this way, they are somewhat like the cornea of the eye: quite sensitive to faint sensations …, but without an ability to precisely locate those sensations.
If your profile isn’t getting the attention that you’d hoped… freshen it up with a new primary photo.
Tight headshots are ideal. True, photos of you in front of the Eiffel Tower are wildly impressive. But you’re the main attraction.
Don’t get lost in the crowd. It’s tempting, to want to show off your friends, kids, and pets in your main picture. Resist that urge. These supportive players can claim another slot in your photo gallery.
Smiles attract. Yours is a beaut! Show it off.
Own it, and keep it decent. Don’t upload a photo that isn’t yours. And don’t display anything that would cause your best friend’s mother to blush.
On the pesky technical side, the guidelines are few: keep your (JPG, GIF, or BMP) image under 2MB.
Our cofounder is speaking at an upcoming panel in California. Here is some info on it:
It’s All About The One-You!Join Bay Area singles at SingleLifeCamp,an offline social networking experience for single ones.As more of us are choosingto live single, we need information about stuff besides finding a date, getting a mate or hooking up. For event details visit https://www.SingleLifeCamp.com.
WHEN:Sunday, July 12
WHERE:Piazza Market & Wine Bar, 627 Vallejo Street, San Francisco
TIME:10am – 4:30pm
Buy Your Tickets at https://www.SingleLifeCamp.com before June 30 and win special prizes from our sponsors!
Online speed dating is a fascinating, convenient, cost effective, and fun way to meet new people. The fact that you can engage in it in your spare minutes from the comfort of your home – eliminating a lot of the precious time spent on coffee or movie dates that go nowhere - makes it a practical, efficient and riveting numbers game, and greatly increases the odds of meeting someone worthwhile.
Below you’ll find some pointers that will help you make the most out of playing this numbers game. Besides the obvious tips such as dressing suitably and smiling in your picture, being confident and not being inappropriate…overall you just need to relax, have fun, and remember that online speed dating is simply an avenue to give you a quick and easy jumpstart into the dating world.
Before You Get Started
1. Intentionally define, with respect to your dating life, what “success” is for you. Is it just meeting new people, going on a few dates and having fun? Is it a short term, action-packed relationship and hook-up? Is it a serious, committed relationship, but without marriage? Or is it a relationship with your soul mate, a relationship that’s going to lead to marriage? Most people don’t take the time to envision what they’re looking for, and become dissatisfied with their results. Know what you want, otherwise the Universe will throw everything at you…like it or not.
2. Understand your purpose. It’s simple: Score a date with someone who feels “right”. That’s it. Online speed dating is only the first step in a long process. A live in-person date is the next step.
During the Dates
1. Just before you go online, pretend you were out walking around and met someone new on the street, at a bar, or through a friend. This will help get you into “character”, and you‘ll be more grounded for the event.
2. Don’t worry about what to write or say…just be present to the other person, listen, and be genuine. It‘s only 3 minutes, so let the questions fly, and don‘t over-think anything. Remember that your only goal is to get a live date with someone you‘re interested in.
3.Don‘t talk sexy or dress too sexy in your photo…just be natural, and “be” sexy. If there’s an attraction to the other person, you‘ll be naturally sexy.
4. Keep it light and fun. You‘ve got nothing to lose.
5. You‘ll know when things click, so trust your instincts. And don‘t get discouraged if your chosen one doesn’t turn out to be who you thought you wanted…it was only practice, so simply get back online and do it again.
After the Dating
Congratulations are deserved…reward yourself by going out for a cup of coffee or tea, or even a beer. Meet with friends and share your experience with them, and encourage them to try it. You just may have found someone you‘re going to spend the rest of your life with – and that deserves a celebration.
About the Author…
Frank Polancic (often referred to as The Soul Mate Guy) is a dating coach, noted speaker and author of “Why Wait? Create Your Soul Mate Now!”, an exceptional dating companion that combines the law of attraction, psychology, feng shui and other spiritual concepts to collectively break down barriers and help singles identify and attract their ideal partner. His method is a powerful transformational tool to help men and women fall in love and live happily ever after… www.createyoursoulmatenow.com
We recently checked our database to determine the most active users on SpeedDate. It turns out that username BarackObama1961 was 44th on the list of our top daters yesterday. This means there were only 43 people out of SpeedDate’s millions of members who had gone on more 3-minute online dates in the last 24 hours. The account indicates that the owner is located in Washington DC, but it appears that the last login was from London, England, where many politicians are currently attending the G20 summit.
Since SpeedDate makes it easy to meet new people for live chats, perhaps this member was simply looking for a quick way to connect with his fellow citizens for 3 minutes at a time. However, we made the decision to ban him from using the site, as SpeedDate is built to be the fastest way for single people to meet someone new. We welcome heads of state and politicians from any country to use speeddate.dating, but please remember that the site is not for those who are currently married.